Tagged: life

Insights-Musings about life and business.

We are all in the same boat. We all are being forced to adapt to the blistering pace of change we see in the world. It’s unsettling, it’s scary, and, worst of all, nobody knows what will happen next. Alvin Toffler predicted that we would live in a state of “cultural anxiety” in Future Shock. Who would have known that what he predicted in 1970 would come true?

For many, death is something to be feared…hence the massive pain we see in the world as we witness the end of the Industrial Age. And why is it that death is promoted as the ultimate “dark” experience? Are we even aware of what is dying?

It appears that the 300 lb. gorilla in the room is that what we have known to be true is not only being questioned, it’s dying. (Kubler-Ross talked about grief in her famous book: On Death and Dying” ).

Fear not…what is dying is what we are conditioned to believe…not life itself.

Life constantly moves forward regardless whether we like it or not. Engaging fully with life is the hard part…especially when we are desperately holding on to the past to make sense out of our future.

Accepting is to let go. It is impossible to truly accept and be fearful.

If you understand the process of grieving you will be on your way to accepting your current circumstance.

The fascinating thing is if you let go, you won’t break. You will be set free.

@chimimimusic

Messaging and branding-Relationships

Relationships.
If someone walks into the room and feigns surprise and acts like they know me i have to immediately decide if I know them or not and what is the basis of the relationship. If I act like i don’t know them invariably the person will seek to provide context to help jog my memory.
This is where it gets interesting.
Do I play along and act like I know them? Or, do I politely say that I don’t know them or what they are talking about. This is a critical juncture. Your choices at this moment will impact the future of the relationship. If you tell the truth you will be building the foundation of an authentic relationship. Anything but the truth will create a false foundation upon which nothing of value will be gained by either party.

Adding another layer of “politeness” to mask the truth of the situation You will be doing both parties a disservice and sow the seeds of future problems. Politeness is not the same as being respectful.

There is more value to be gained from being truthful than being disingenuous…for you and those around you.
Pay attention.
Get to the point.
Be clear
Be respectful
Don’t waste your time with denial.
When life seems overwhelming most of us tend to hide out…to avoid addressing obvious truths.

Use truth and respect as a springboard towards both personal and business growth.

@chimimimusic

Maintaining focus in your online messaging

Ever give much thought to how you present yourself when you met someone? Do you stumble over words? Do you maintain eye contact? Does your body language indicate warm and inclusive or guarded and remote? Are the muscles in your face relaxed or tense? Do you ask questions and listen? Or, do you talk over the other person?

If you are in sales you have probably thought about these things. If not, it may have never given it much thought.

PRESENTING YOURSELF ONLINE.

Even though online interaction is primarily text driven, your choice of language, photos, which posts to comment on and which to avoid is essentially a reflection of who you are and defines your online presence. These interactions are how you will be judged and will determine whether or not the reader will choose to engage.

Successful social media interaction requires you to understand “why” you are posting/commenting/likeing etc prior to making the post. Once you click return you lose control of your message.

Best be focused if you want to get your message across.

  @chimimimusic  

“Being Cool-How to create engaging relationships (and change lives)

Is being “cool” a subjective term? For some, being cool is as attractive as a flame to a moth. For others it is something to be avoided. Whatever your opinion we all think of it as a “mysterious quality” that some people have and others don’t.

Don’t believe it. Being “cool” is a combination of three personality traits. And, regardless of your natural aptitudes your “coolness” can be nurtured and refined.

What makes somebody “cool”?

Having discipline, willpower and the ability to focus attention.

Like most patients I instantly feel more comfortable when my doctor comes into the exam room if I sense he is in control of his emotions, unflappable and can focus their attention on me, rather than the multitude of distractions available. In this instance being able to focus your attention really means being able to listen attentively.

Why is attentive listening “cool”?

Focusing your attention while listening is when the magic happens. Focused attention opens the door to making real and lasting connections. It is only after such a connection is made that you can be truly compassionate and empathetic. As the world continues to change at such a dramatic pace our attraction to authentic relationships will become more and more important. Great value can be derived by simply by listening well. Without even realizing it your “cool” factor will increase.

Why is discipline “cool”?

We all face difficult situations. Those who maintain their self-control usually manage to navigate through rough waters while those who react emotionally will have a more difficult time. The phrase: “cool under fire” comes to mind. Don’t we all prefer to be around people who seem unflappable?

Determination is defined as a “firm or fixed intention to achieve a desired end”. Why is Kobe Bryant, Michael Jackson or any other successful athlete or performer deemed “cool?” They have all used their willpower and determination to achieve their goals. We instinctively gravitate towards winners because at some level we want to share in and identify with their success.

And why is being “cool” so important?

We have reached a milestone as a culture. Almost without exception we have learned to spot a phony a mile away. We no longer will accept being sold a bill of goods.

Using social media effectively requires that you offer the reader something more than what you receive in return. What better than to offer them the chance to experience an authentic connection? Now that would really be “cool”!

Increasing your “cool” factor is not mysterious. It’s actually rather simple:

  • Listen with focused attention (enabling authentic connections)
  • Strive to be disciplined (staying on message)
  • Never give up (pursuing your goals)

How will that change lives?

You will undoubtedly affect the lives of those around you. And, you may realize one day that you are, in fact, pretty cool!

 

Thought for the day.

I had a conversation last night about giving. It is a curious thing-giving. If you really think about it when you give with love the intrinsic rewards far outweigh what is received. As a result the reward is in the giving not the receiving…
Give with out expectation…be grateful for whatever comes back.

BTW-Today is my brother’s birthday. Happy Birthday Craig.