Tagged: community

Insights-Musings about life and business.

We are all in the same boat. We all are being forced to adapt to the blistering pace of change we see in the world. It’s unsettling, it’s scary, and, worst of all, nobody knows what will happen next. Alvin Toffler predicted that we would live in a state of “cultural anxiety” in Future Shock. Who would have known that what he predicted in 1970 would come true?

For many, death is something to be feared…hence the massive pain we see in the world as we witness the end of the Industrial Age. And why is it that death is promoted as the ultimate “dark” experience? Are we even aware of what is dying?

It appears that the 300 lb. gorilla in the room is that what we have known to be true is not only being questioned, it’s dying. (Kubler-Ross talked about grief in her famous book: On Death and Dying” ).

Fear not…what is dying is what we are conditioned to believe…not life itself.

Life constantly moves forward regardless whether we like it or not. Engaging fully with life is the hard part…especially when we are desperately holding on to the past to make sense out of our future.

Accepting is to let go. It is impossible to truly accept and be fearful.

If you understand the process of grieving you will be on your way to accepting your current circumstance.

The fascinating thing is if you let go, you won’t break. You will be set free.

@chimimimusic

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A Sense Of Community

What is community? How do we define it? Do we actually know what it is? Ever thought about why we as humans think it is important? With a big h/t to Greg Lexiphanic here are a few thoughts to consider. I will try to paraphrase this great ebook. For more detail please go here

Key criteria to establish a “sense of community” (as defined by David McMillan & David Chavis- “sense of community: a theory and definition”) are:

1. Membership 2. Influence 3. Fulfilment of needs 4. Shared emotional connection.

For a community to exist members must experience a sense of community.

How can you create a community around who you are, your business, your interests? Take the time to understand how these 4 elements relate to each other and what they mean individually.

Membership implies exclusivity (a barrier to entry or boundary). Either you are in or you are out. Implied in membership is a trust that you will be safe and taken care of within the boundaries and definitions of the group.

Influence is gained by having an affecting change on the group. Influence is only achieved by listening as well as expressing your beliefs.

“People who acknowledge that others’ needs, values, and opinions matter to them are often the most influential group members, while those who always push to influence, try to dominate others, and ignore the wishes and opinions of others are often the least powerful members.” —McMillan & Chavis, 1986

The fuel to drive a community is reinforcement. To receive reinforcement requires participation by the members. If participation focuses on the betterment of the group then reinforcement and a “sense of community” can be achieved. it is a two way street of give and take within the boundaries created by the group. No matter which side of the coin you are on (giving or receiving), if you feel fulfilled by taking part, the group will fill satisfy your need to belong and a bond will develop.

Shared Emotional Connection. There is a great line from the film Local Color that talks about art: “A shared experience is more meaningful than one experienced alone.”

Why is it we seek out group experience rather than isolation?

Intimacy, acknowledgement, sharing of views in a defined format, reward for your investment of time and energy and spiritual bonding ties us together in groups creating a more powerfulexperience than trying to do it alone. Its why we identify with an join groups in the first place. We are tribal animals…it is intrinsic to our nature.

Attempting to create an online or offline community is difficult and time consuming. However, the rewards can be far outweigh the investment. The pot of gold will come from the bonds you create in your community.

Look at your business and personal relationships. Question the drivers and quality of the interactions, what value you derive from feeling connected and reward you receive in return.. Most of us blithely stumble into situations that are driven by habit and conditioning rather than conscious thought.

The opportunity for all of us who are interested in creating community is not only to succeed but also the learn more about ourselves.

  @chimimimusic  

Thought For The Day 2/11/09

If you read the papers we are all dipped in #$%^! All of us are being forced into reacting to and being awakened from a deep sleep-fiscal responsibility.

I know it is unfair to make a blanket statement…I’m sure there are those among us who have taken care of bidness. Regardless, we are all in it together now.

I look at this like your spouse informing you they want a divorce that you don’t want. The end result is that you are being forced to change regardless of what you might think at the time.

The key I believe is to look for the opportunity. It is a truism that “in chaos lies great opportunity”. We’ve all got the chaos, the fear and all the rest. Now, as individuals, we need to focus on where the opportunity lies.

It reminds me of a story:

Two boys were walking down the street and come upon some horse dung. One boy says: “Look out! Don’t step in that!” He turned to the other boy who was smiling. He asked him: “Why are you smiling? The other boy replied: “There’s got to be a pony around here somewhere.”

My point is this: even though we are sometimes forced to adapt to circumstances we haven’t chosen we all have the power to choose how we deal with it…what our attitude will be.

At times like these community and relationships are the glue that binds us together.

Embrace the change, reach out to your friends, and remember there is a pony out there somewhere.